mmmm, very first blog post for moving into light.
i love to think about how we all have stories.
and how our stories change and transform over time.
because we are alive.
we are still writing our stories.
a story about abuse can be changed.
become a brave story.
about how you survived.
then, what comes next?
because you are alive
you are still writing your story.
"being able to say that one is a survivor is an accomplishment," writes clarissa pinkola estes, in women who run with the wolves. "for many, the power is in the name itself. and yet comes a time in the individuation process when the threat or trauma is significantly past. then is the time to go to the next stage after survivorship, to healing and thriving."
i have read these words over and over.
they reassure me.
and raise questions:
how do women who survived abuse move beyond "survivor" status and, after healing, thrive? when the worst times are far enough in the rear view mirror, how do we go about gently shedding this label? who are the other women who have done this? what are their stories of transformation?
my friend karly siroky recently suggested that our storylines are kind of like a “stupor of thought” and we wander and wind our way through life under their influence. sometimes we allow a certain thought or a certain part of the story to define us. and when the story is no longer big enough to hold us, we can change the pattern, cry out "plot change!" and write a new chapter. but the storyline is still there - like a thread that weaves the past to the present to the future.
i love this.
especially the part about the future.
it gets me really excited.
because i know we all have beautiful images we hold in our hearts
of what we wish to create
in the future.
these visions are so important.
they are the dreams that will heal humanity.
our dreams have not only survived the traumas of our past
but often they were forged there.
in the fire.
my dream is to create and publish a book of portraits and thoughts from inspiring, beautiful, light-filled women who are thriving today, after having survived intimate partner abuse.
to share wisdom. to inspire other women.
artists, dreamers, healers, writers, poets, dancers, mothers, sisters, daughters, lovers, singers… lights.
"it is better to name ourselves names that challenge us to grow as free creatures," writes estes. "that is thriving. that is what was meant for us."
what is your story? what is your dream?
i look forward to hearing from you.